Kinda Sorta Famous

in pursuit of life, love, and the opportunity to be…

will you marry me?

Forever?

It seems like when women reach “twenty something” they are expected to get married, have kids, and oh yeah, nowadays, maintain a career.

Why is this not the same for men? What is the “secret age” for men? Guess what?

There’s not one. Why you ask? Because we live in a patriarchal society that caters to the almighty male and perpetuates double standards. I could go on…..but I’m not. I want to keep SOME of my male friends.

Anyways, my complaint is this. As a woman barely in her twenties , I feel the pressure often from family and friends to “settle down”. Ugh! Settle down to what? And why? I guess for 2.5 kids and a white picket fence. I’ll pass. Maybe when I’m 30ish.

(Sidenote: Men what is your first thought when you meet a 35 year old, single woman? Yea…….Exactly.)

Anyways…..Is it wrong to think that I can “settle down” later in life? Isn’t that what most men think? And who says I WANT to settle down? Having to answer to someone, for THE REST OF YOUR NATURAL BORN LIFE….. Sounds scary. Plus, what ever happened to good ol’ cohabitation.(Okay, I’m pushing it.)

Afraid of commitment? Perhaps. But at least I’m admitting it.

Besides, from most of what I’ve seen, not too many prospects. Maybe things will change. Not likely. Maybe I’ll be less picky. Not likely.

Hmmmmm, I sound pessismistic. Or perhaps realistic? You be the judge.

But before you count me as another Angry Black Woman, know this: I am NOT angry!  I LOVE Black Men.  I’m not upset nor bitter. (Perhaps a little distrusting, but who isn’t?) I feel there are prospects out there…somewhere. Just not on my level.

I mean, I’m just saying…

Am I wrong? What are your thoughts?

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July 16, 2006 Posted by | relationship crap | , , , , | Leave a comment